Dating while overweight
I am good at writing and making jokes and cleaning. I would love to pass my days maneuvering a minivan full of foster kids to soccer games and recitals and tutoring.
None of these things would be diminished because of my size, yet none of them seem to matter because of my size.
Well, I never really thought I would write this blog. I decided to cool down and wait 24 hours before I blurted it all out here. So, for starters, I have had two of the most amazing men in my life and two wonderful long term relationships in my life; I count myself super grateful and blessed.
"If you keep this practice going, not only will you believe it, but you'll exude it," says Poretsky, who teaches the "Body Love Makeover Attraction Program" course for overweight women who would like to date more and feel more attractive.
It feels like things should be different in the church.
Markers of spiritual maturity, like depth of character or willingness to serve, should trump my above-average BMI, but rarely is that the case.
Men that treated me like a goddess and that always made me feel beautiful and sexy. I have also had to have that awkward discussion with a couple of them ( “You’re really great. I am just right mother fu*ker.) ” I just love dating fat girls. I think maybe when you’re immature and in high school you are much more insecure. I have certainly had lots of mean shit said to me online by the fat shamers and the trolls (and now by these men that I denied a first date to). And, as I like to say “Unless I love you, I just don’t care about your opinion of me any way.” If you haven’t read my article for the Huffington Post called “Do Not Settle Curvy Girls” here is the link : a reminder from me that the people you surround yourself with should LIFT you up and bring you jog.
Just so blessed in that department so I have no complaints. Just not for me” ) and a few of them just sort of drifted off into the never never land that is dating. Women who spend any time online know about all of the trolls and all of the shamers. I think once you become an adult, you become more interested in the WHOLE person and not the shell that person is in, ya know? In real life, I have never had any men (not to my face anyway) say anything negative about my big body… If they criticize you and put you down, you need to break up with them right away. Ain’t no one got time for that bull shit, as they say. Do not reply back with witty comments about their sad, pitiful life – no matter how good it might feel. “Please stop emailing me.” And then SAVE everything in case you ever need it.
By now I hope we can all agree that Valentine’s Day is, well, a little bit silly.